1. Lisa’ s words of wisdom

     
  2. Lisa’s words of wisdom

     

  3. Anonymous said: Be honest, when comes to guy advice and you say things like "he's out there, just wait" or "find someone who loves you for you" is that advice that you yourself follow? I'm curious, your a beautiful girl who I can imagine could have any guy she wants but at the same time I honestly see you picking the hot guy who's a dbag over someone who's a complete sweetheart but might be overweight or something like that.

    lisacim:

    You sound like a guy who views himself very negatively haha this tells me more about you and your views than it tells me anything about me. I can’t just “have anyone I want”. People aren’t groceries, you don’t just walk up and pick them and anyone who lets you walk up and pick them is emotionally deranged anyway. Yes I am keeping the faith and waiting until the right person comes. I have a ton of great work opportunities right now and 0 guys asking for my time. Hmmm, should I devote any of my energy to random boys? No. Relationships don’t “fix your life” or “solve all your problems” but they can create a lot of new ones. That’s why you gotta make sure you’re with someone who’s worth the headache cuz lets face it, any relationship between two people, whether its family, friends, coworkers or the ever-sought-after romantic partners, has friction, miscommunications, misunderstandings, hurt feelings and a whole lot of other crap. There’s also a lot of awesome stuff (duh) but you can’t be delusional and just tell yourself it’ll be all smiles and rainbows and you’ll spend the rest of your days obsessing over that perfect person whom you just love so flawlessly and you’ll never want to shave their eyebrows off. Cuz you will want to shave their eyebrows off at some point. And that’s when you have to be with someone with good character, a solid moral foundation and a really good heart, so you have a real reason to stay with them.

     

  4. Anonymous said: Why do I shut people out so easily?

    lisacim:

    Cuz your family/the people around you aren’t perfect and they hurt you in some way as a child and as a result you’re now scared to trust cuz when you unconditionally trusted people as a baby, they let you down as humans so often do. But please remember that just cuz people hurt you doesn’t mean they wanted to or that that’ll happen every time. There are so many good times waiting for you if you just open your heart. Life means so much more when you share it with the people around you

     

  5. "

    You are not your makeup,
    not your clothes,
    an anonymous face.
    No one knows,
    you’re not a skin color,
    a pretty face,
    the number of inches around your waist.
    There’s so much in your head
    that nobody knows,
    so many things you never show.

    You’re more than labels,
    more than pain,
    baby you’re more than your mistakes.
    And you got something, to say.

    When will you realize, baby you’re worth it,
    don’t have to do anything to earn it.
    Baby you’re perfect,
    you deserve it,
    when will you see what I see,
    and realize you’re worth it.

    You are not a burden,
    not a waste,
    you’re not a copy,
    can’t be replaced.
    You’re not your pain,
    not your past,
    scars will never hold you back.
    There’s so much that you’ve been through that nobody knows,
    so many things you never show.

    "
    — You’re Worth It- Cimorelli (via ilikegirlbands)
     

  6. Anonymous said: what to do about judgemental people

    lisacim:

    Disregard them. Realize they’re in pain. They judge because they feel judged. You don’t have to take their words seriously

     

  7. lisacim:

    You’re never gonna get the love you need here on earth. I mean, you have it every single day, but you’re never gonna feel its presence the way you want to. God loves us the way we need to be loved but we don’t feel that in the form of hugs, attention, encouragement, support and dedication the way…

     

  8. thatsmarlli said: Your post recently about life not being perfect and realising that the world isn't about me - I needed that. I just wanted to say thank you because I think I'm struggling with that right now. I crave people's attention and affection for me. Then I end up just disappointing myself when it's not given to me. I start to feel unworthy and unvalued. Any more advice on how I learn to cope with this?

    lisacim:

    So glad it helped!!! I’d say just realize your craving for attention is NORMAL. Humans need attention naturally and we really miss it when we don’t get it! That doesn’t mean we should do irrational or desperate things to get it from the wrong sources though. Try to take good care of yourself. Be there for yourself the way you wish other people would. Do what you know is gonna enrich your life and make you feel better in the long run, not just right now :)

     

  9. Anonymous said: I'm kind of struggling. Like I would look soooo much better with makeup, and I want to look good, but then I also have the mentality of "makeup free"... like I'm special because Im natural. It's kind of hard to explainbut it's why I don't get my eyebrows done either. I just feel that's kind of cheating I guess? Like its better to be seen as natural? I don't know. Other girls notice if you get them done and are like "oh, her eyebrows are only good cause they're done" and "pretty bc makeup."help?

    lisacim:

    Haha you need to stop letting your choices revolve around what other people think of you, whether you decide to stay natural or mess with things. My experience has been that a little makeup makes me feel more confident some days and helps me be more friendly/approachable. Too much makes me insecure about my personality/worth as a human like “ohh I’m so pretty today! *back of my mind* But that’s all people see in me…” Not fun. No makeup is fine most days but sometimes being in public naked faced makes me irritable and rude ‘cause I feel insecure and don’t want anyone to talk to me. Also not good. But a lot of times that’s not the case, usually only if I’m already having a bad day and I’m dressed like a slob haha. My advice is to find what works for you and makes YOU feel genuinely good about yourself. The less you can rely on makeup or outside sources to feel confident, THE BETTER. But living in fear of being judged for getting your eyebrows done or wearing makeup isn’t happiness either. It’s cowardice. Find your balance, whatever it is.

     

  10. Anonymous said: You always said how we're all loved so much and stuff but your last post talked about how we're NOT all loved... I'm confused

    lisacim:

    No haha I was saying everyone is loved but you’re not always gonna FEEL it. I used to think I was supposed to FEEL loved all the time and if I couldn’t feel it, it wasn’t there. I was trying to explain how you’re not always gonna feel loved, wanted and appreciated cuz no one’s got the time to do that for you 24/7, and that’s okay. Just cuz you can’t feel something every second of the day doesn’t mean it’s not there. You aaarrrreeee loved.